Annoyed and offended...

Let's get to the point!  I am slightly annoyed and mildly offended!

... and all because of Facebook!


Bethany is not a fast-track baby, but she hits all her milestones, so far, according to her age / month.  I have a copy of "What to Expect in the First Year" and I have been referring to it as the baby-bible.  

Three days ago, she just started sitting up from a lying position.  At first it took her a bit of a time to figure out how to place her little hands and feet to pull herself to a sitting position.  It took her less than a day to master it.  As first-time parents, watching Bethany accomplish yet another milestone is rewarding and exciting!

Two days ago, while I was out grocery shopping, Bethany managed to pull herself up from a sitting position by grabbing onto Joe's fingers..  I was only out for 1.5 hours, and Bethany, once again, hit another major milestone.  Same as all other first time dads out there, my husband posted this piece of joyful news on Facebook!


Fast forward to this morning, I had coffee with my mommy friend and her 8-month-old son.  Her son is two months younger than Bethany, and he seems to be hitting the milestones faster than Bethany.  For example, he managed to pull himself to a sitting position before Bethany did.  He has been cruising the furniture while Bethany is perfectly happy army-crawling!  


My mommy friend: "Remember a few days ago, your posted on FB that Bethany is able to sit in the crib?  My husband and I had a discussion about you.  You know you are so competitive and you want to make sure Bethany hits those milestones before anyone does."

Me:  "Yes I am competitive in nature and it is in my blood.  But Bethany DID sit up in her crib!"


My mommy friend: "Hahaha!  This morning as soon as I posted that my son is standing in his crib.  I told my husband "Wait until Louisa sees that.  She is going to post right away that Bethany is able to stand in her crib too! Hahaha!'


Me:  (speechless for a few seconds... and this was what went through my head, " Ok this is not funny hahaha!  At this point, I was annoyed.  Was she implying that I "lied" when posting on Facebook to make myself and Bethany look good")

Me (put on my normal face though I was upset): Bethany did pull herself up by grabbing onto Joe's fingers wednesday night!  

( I was out grocery shopping when Bethany pulled herself up!  Although I did not see it with my own eyes, I am sure my husband would not, in a million years, lied about Bethany's achievement !)

My mommy friend: Joe knows you are competitive and I am sure you must have rubbed some of your competitiveness on Joe as well.
(Seriously... I was beyond annoyed at this point.  So I admit I am competitive and I have been secretly compare Bethany with other babies at her age to see if she is slow, fast or normal in achieving milestones!  As much as I would like to see Bethany on the fast-track, I am relieved to know that my little girl is normal!  My husband and I would NOT lie or post un-truthful comments on FB about Bethany just to make us look good! And this is not what parenting is about!  Plus... babies do not lie!  They can either stand or not... !)

Somehow we moved onto a different and lighter topic.  After coffee, we went to a friend's house for mommy & baby's playdate.  While I was sitting on the floor, chatting away with other moms, watching Bethany sitting happily on the floor, clapping her hands,  the conversation I had with my friend earlier at Starbucks kept replaying in my mind.  Being competitive is one thing, but lying about Bethany's achievement is another thing and I do not see a correlation in those two at all.  The comments she made left a very bad taste in my mouth and I was not enjoying myself at the playdate.  At the end, we left early so that I could come home,  take a deep breath and collect myself.


The bottom line is, I am a.n.n.o.y.e.d. and o.f.f.e.n.d.e.d.!